Casey and I closed on our first home eleven days before our wedding date. We fell in love with the house the first time that we looked at it, and made an offer the same day. We were both young (Casey was 18 and I was 21) and had no idea what we were getting ourselves into.
Thankfully, we had the support of a real estate agent who had the heart of a grandmother. She could have just looked at us as another sale, but she took the time to explain the process to us and gave us valuable advice to keep us from making mistakes. Our mortgage representative was a friend of mine, which also gave us an advantage. She was able to help us understand the mortgage process and provided much needed wisdom on this process.
The grass is always greener…
It is pretty amazing how quickly your perspective changes when you become a homeowner. For the first twenty-one years of my life, I had lived with family. I cannot tell you how many times I would daydream about the day when I would live on my own. I could stay out as late as I liked, do whatever I wanted to, and all that good stuff that teenagers dream about.
So many times, a well-meaning adult would come along and tell me to just be patient and stay at home as long as I could. Their advice was always similar; save as much as you can while you can.
Yet, no matter how many times I was told to be patient, my teenage self could not wait to get out on my own. Even though I had great parents, I just could not wait to have that freedom that comes when you are out on your own. The grass always seems greener on the other side.
You have no idea…
There were many things that my parents provided that I was completely clueless about, things that I just took for granted. Things like: toilet paper, soap, toothpaste, socks, laundry detergent, and so-on. The fact of the matter is, as a young person, you have no idea what it really takes to live on your own.
And when you move out on your own, you begin to look at things differently. Now, I understand why my dad would tell us repeatedly to turn off lights when we were not in a room or to know what we wanted before we opened the refrigerator door. What I didn’t understand as a child was that all of these things had to be paid for. The things that I took for granted, out of ignorance, came with a cost, a cost that my parents were paying for.
With ownership, comes responsibility…
Jonathan shared again this week about facing and defeating the giants in life. He highlighted that we have to make the choice to move into the promises that God has for us. Much like the Israelites had to choose to go into the promised land and fight to possess our promises too.
And here is a truth that I gleaned from his teaching this morning:
With ownership comes responsibility…
With ownership comes responsibility. And responsibility requires discipline.
Every teenager daydreams about moving out on their own; none of them daydream about doing the laundry or paying the rent.
Millions of people daydream about having a sculpted body fit for the swimsuit magazine cover; they seldom daydream about the nutrition and exercise required to obtain it.
We want to own the house; we just don’t want to cut the grass.
Everyone wants the adorable puppy; no one wants to clean up the mess.
Singles daydream about their future spouse, not the conflict that comes with the relationship.
Married couples dream about being parents, not the sleepless nights that come with being one.
We desire the promotion, not the responsibility of the position.
With ownership comes responsibility. And responsibility requires discipline. Owners look at things differently, because they know there is a price to be paid. Responsibility always rides shotgun to ownership.
Possess the promises…
The Lord had declared that He was giving the land to the Israelites. He told them to scout the land out to see if it was everything that He promised. They toured the land, brought back souvenirs, ate the food, and declared that the land was everything that the Lord had promised it was.
The only problem was the land was inhabited by real life giants. And ten of the twelve scouts came back with a negative report, one of fear and discouragement.
“We entered the land you sent us to explore, and it is indeed a bountiful country—a land flowing with milk and honey. Here is the kind of fruit it produces. 28 But the people living there are powerful, and their towns are large and fortified. We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak! 29 The Amalekites live in the Negev, and the Hittites, Jebusites, and Amorites live in the hill country. The Canaanites live along the coast of the Mediterranean Sea[a] and along the Jordan Valley.”
“We can’t go up against them! They are stronger than we are!” 32 So they spread this bad report about the land among the Israelites: “The land we traveled through and explored will devour anyone who goes to live there. All the people we saw were huge. 33 We even saw giants[b] there, the descendants of Anak. Next to them we felt like grasshoppers, and that’s what they thought, too!”
(Numbers 13:27-29, 31-33 NLT).
The scouts all agreed that the land was good, just as the Lord had promised. And the thought of taking the land was nice; they just were not willing to fight for it! They liked the idea of possessing the land but were not willing to pay the price. With ownership comes responsibility, and responsibility requires discipline.
Fight for it…
The question that you have to ask is: Are you willing to fight for it? Are you willing to fight to possess the promises? Are you willing to pay the price? Are you willing to step out into the unknown and give God the opportunity to do something amazing? When we decide to play it safe, we rob ourselves of seeing God do the miraculous!
I am determined to fight to possess all God’s promises in 2017! I know that this won’t come easy, but the reward is well-worth it. And truthfully, we have yet to see what God will do in our lives when we fully surrender to Him!